Your body goes through so many incredible changes throughout the course of your pregnancy. Because of this, you may experience things that you don't normally experience. Two of these experiences may include stuffy and bloody noses. Thankfully, these things are completely normal during pregnancy. However, this doesn't mean that you can't understand why they are happening and how you can best treat them. This article will discuss the causes and treatment options in more detail. 

Causes Of Stuffy Noses 

About 30% of women have stuffy noses during their pregnancy, which is also referred to as rhinitis. When you become pregnant, there are elevated levels of certain hormones that accumulate in your body. Two of these hormones that contribute to increased blood flow are estrogen and progesterone. The increased blood flow causes you to have stuffy noses. This is because the blood flow that goes to your mucous membranes makes it thicken, thus increasing the flow of your mucus and effectively stuffing up your nose. The stuffy noses generally begin around 16 weeks when the hormones in your body really begin to increase, thus increasing blood flow.

Treatment For Stuffy Noses 

Treating stuffy noses during pregnancy can be somewhat tricky because you can't take traditional cold medicines, such as decongestants. However, you can use a humidifier to help clear your sinuses a bit. This is especially effective to use at night when you are sleeping. You can also safely use a saline spray in your nose to help loosen the mucus, thus allowing you to blow it out. If your nose is feeling raw from constant blowing, petroleum jelly is a safe and effective way to moisturize it. If these methods are not effective enough for you, then you may want to ask your OBGYN for further assistance.

Causes Of Bloody Noses 

Only 6% of women have bloody noses on a regular basis, however, this number rises to 20% when they become pregnant. As stated previously, the hormones estrogen and progesterone increase during pregnancy, causing increased blood flow. This increased blood flow makes the blood vessels in your nose, and in your entire body, expand with blood. This can make them more likely to rupture, especially when they are under pressure. Because you are constantly blowing your stuffy nose during pregnancy, you put pressure on these blood vessels. When one of these vessels rupture, this causes you to have a bloody nose. Thankfully, these bloody noses aren't anything to worry about, if you get a few of them throughout the course of your pregnancy. 

Treatment For Bloody Noses 

There are a couple things that you can do to treat your bloody noses during pregnancy. For one thing, you can try to be more careful when you are blowing your nose. Try to do things to thin the mucus in your nose before you blow it, such as using a saline solution or a humidifier. Also, when you do blow your nose, try your best to blow softly. Some doctors may even recommend that you increase your Vitamin C intake during pregnancy because this can help to strengthen your capillaries, thus helping them to resist rupturing when blowing your nose. If you find that you are having a lot of bloody noses, then this is a sign to contact your OBGYN for further treatment options. 

While stuffy and bloody noses are a common part of pregnancy for many women, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't be able to understand why they happen and treat them effectively using pregnancy-safe methods. 

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There's tons of reading and prep to do when having a baby. Each day and each week, you read your What to Expect post and find out what's going on inside that belly of yours.  What's happening to your body, symptoms, and learn things you've never thought or heard of before. However, there are just a few details that sometimes get missed. This list includes a few of those tips, ideas, and topics that you may share with a fellow mom to be as you go on this mamahood journey together. 

1. Start using 100% shea butter on your belly, breasts, and don't forget to do your back. There's properties to Shea butter that increase cell turnover, regeneration, hold in moisture, and increase elasticity. Dump the oils that are blends (cut with cheap oils) and filled with unnatural ingredients. Unless you have found something that really works for you, this is a great thing to have for your growing torso. Start now...way before you pop. Like week number one! Moisturize your nipples everyday as well. Do this every morning and night. You'll be a greasy turkey butterball, but it will be worth it! Don't forget, stretch marks are partly hereditary sometimes, no matter what, you're gonna get them anyways...but this will really help. You'll be surprised how you have way less stretch marks, if any, and you won't be itchy.

2. Fiber intake. Increase you're fiber in the third trimester. If you have to take an iron supplement for any reason, your stool is going to become dry and constipated. Iron is horrendous for doing this to your body. So before you get hemorrhoids during pregnancy, grab that fiber and boost it along with 2-3 liters of water a day to keep all things hydrated and flowing. Hemorrhoids during pregnancy are awful and are hard to go away. So be prepared with fiber before you get them! Plus, labor can cause hemorrhoids so stock your hospital birth bag with Tucks or witch hazel pads and any other supplies as needed to sooth all your down there parts!

3. Perineal massage. That last two weeks...you may want to slab some oil on your perineal area and give it a massage when you can. Circular and firm motions to get the elasticity going. Whatever it takes to possibly avoid an episiotomy and if this helps, it's worth a try! Your doc may do this during labor to help in making sure baby can pass through so don't be surprised. 

4. Water water water. Drink at least, at least I say, two liters a day. This keeps swelling down and keeps your glow, actually glowing. Seriously. People will be like "wow you're glowing". You and your baby need lots of water for so many reasons. Just the fact you'll have lesser swelling is a good reason to count them ounces. Switch water up with fresh green juice, spa water, and coconut water as well. 

5. Sugar and cravings. Eat what you want to eat! But, try to keep sweets and "junk foods" consumed during the day when you have time to burn it off. Keep these items made from real natural sugars and ingredients so you're consuming less "hard to pronounce" "goodness knows what it is" foods that are found in processed and fast food. So if you're gonna splurge, at least make it quality and organic. You can still have a donut or deli sandwich...there's places using real whole food ingredients without trans fats and without nitrates. If you want a burger, skip McDonald's and go for Shake Shack. One is totally processed and one is made to order from all things you can pronounce. If you want a milk shake don't do Jack n the Box. Try making one at home instead with organic or coconut based ice cream. There's a difference between pure junk and "healthier junk" food.  There's such thing as junk that is way way less junky. Keep these cravings moderate and keep you're activity level up to balance things out. Beware of too much sodium. If you're already predisposed to diabetes then you certainly want to avoid most sweets and junk food. Again, water everything down to keep things flushing out of your system.

6. Self care. Don't skip making yourself feel and look good, because this is part of a healthy pregnancy. If you look fresh then you're spirit will be up along with it. Sooth your skin with your favorites masks and moisturizers (easy to do while laying in bed). Splurge on something nice for yourself. Go on a trip or dates with your partner. Get out and meet with friends when you can. Drink fresh green juices and eat all the healthy organic foods. All these will boost your mood, keep you moving, and will help in the transition to motherhood, where (let's face it) you will be adjusting greatly for the first several weeks, maybe even more. So take this time to nurture your baby and yourself the best you can. Next time you're laying in bed browsing your IG feed, slap on that face mask and indulge in a little extra r n r while you're at it.

7. Clean house. Nesting is real for some. This impulse to get things organized and ready before baby comes is actually a blessing you'll be glad you had. So take it and run with it. Laundry, cleaning, scheduling, figuring out work, installing car seats, packing a hospital bag, remodeling your house, choosing a pediatrician, reading up on what to expect. Whatever it may be, bringing your little one home to a more organized setting is going to relieve stress and the burden of having to do all this stuff eventually. So the sooner the better, so in your last week of pregnancy, you can continue your self care and resting. You won't want to be overwhelmed with cleaning and organizing in that final home stretch. Tip: When putting away baby stuff, have a few clear containers that you've labeled by age group and you can put the age appropriate items in each one.  This goes with planning a smart baby registry in that you should have an age range of items. Babes grow fast and newborn stuff just doesn't last that long. 

8. Teeth hygiene. Brush and floss. A lot. You're susceptible to gingivitis and other issues when you are pregnant. Grab a good toothpaste and mouth wash and ensure you stick to proper cleaning so you avoid any problems. If you don't keep it up you're gums might bleed. That's just not cool!

9. Pee all the time. Even when you think your bladder is empty, it may be not. Lean forward a bit when peeing to let it all out. UTI's are super common in pregnancy and can be asymptomatic so drink tons of water and pee whenever you feel you need to. You might have to pee right now. So go!!

10. Take infant cpr class. So you may have heard to take a birth class. Well if you had to choose, go with infant cpr. You may need to use it (hopefully not) but it's so important to know! It is a great class to take, feel empowered, and maybe save a life of your child or someone else's. Don't feel bad if you can't take a birth class. It will all come to you and you'll have support all around you for delivery day. Infant cpr won't come natural. Lots of babies choke on small food and anything can happen. Don't you want to be knowledgable? Take this class guys! (Now if you can do both. Well obvi then.) Also, a baby 101 type class is excellent to go over all the essentials and because it would be interactive with you're partner, doing this type of class could not only strengthen your bond and excitement, but help your partner be prepared to help you! Hello, less stress.

11. Transitional nursing clothing. Don't buy too many maternity clothes. You have stuff that stretches and fits in your closet. DO buy nursing tops that work for bump to baby, and well beyond. You will need those nursing tanks and hoodies. Not only to breastfeed way easier and more conveniently, but to look normal and put together. Yes, seriously. It's a total game changer. Mom uniform must have. You'll look cute, but then can whip the boob out when ever without having to basically half undress to do so. Stylish nursing tops are key if you're gonna be a nursing & pumping mama that has to do this every three hours. Be prepared to breastfeed with reading up, connecting with other other moms doing it, and knowing where to get lactation help if needed. Prep before baby comes...don't just wing it because it's gonna be hard enough as it is.

12. Cord blood and tissue collection. This has to be done at birth. So if you're even slightly interested to do it, you need to make it a priority to look into. Don't wait past 38 weeks so you can ensure you've done your research and enrolled so your kit will get to you before birth. Carry the kit with you everywhere till d day. Don't leave it in the car if you live in a warm place. If you don't want to privately bank your baby's cord blood and tissue, you can donate it. Donating it helps other people. This is better than just opting to have it thrown away (unless there is a disease already). 

13. Baby stuff. Buy lots of wipes (hypoallergenic and sensitive because your baby may react and not like some) and a variety to see what works best. Have your Amazon delivery all set up so you don't need to leave home to order more supplies as needed. Ensure you have an age range of items. Babies grow fast. Don't just concentrate on newborn and 0-3!

14. Groceries. Definitely have your Prime Now activated so you can order groceries, water, and restaurant delivery on the fly. You're not gonna want or have time to shop, so grocery delivery is a mom's best friend. It's so convenient guys. Get this on your phone stat! You can also sign up, pre baby birth, for a meal delivery service in order to get full on yummy smoothies and prepped healthy meals ready to go for you. See what's in your area. Oh, and wine!! There's wine delivery too!

15. Brazilian Bikini Wax.  Get the hair off! If you like that hairless feeling then book your appt and have a professional do it for you.  It is just impossible to see down there when you have a watermelon tummy.  From experience, trying to do it yourself is so difficult and to top it off, the direction of the regrowth of the hair will be all over the place so best to have the experts help you out here. Wax your armpits too while you're at it! You may barely have time for this once baby arrives.  Do the waxing right before you think you're due so you're fresh and smooth for D day.

16. Set up all the baby stuff.  Again, cleaning, nesting, organizing...well setting up the baby stuff before he arrives is critical to an easier transition. The baby monitor, electric swing, pack n play, baby closet organizers, and swivel bassinet should all be ready to go.  Open the diapers, set out the wipes, and have things where they need to be. Assembly of baby products is worse than IKEA and you won't want to have to do it later on. Trust, it will be a pain if you procrastinate on this. 

17. Learn how to use your breast pump. Don't just keep it in the box. Even though you may not use it till 3-4 weeks after the birth, you should have an idea how to use your pump. Time is precious with a newborn so YouTube that pump and get everything down as much as you can from assembly, usage, and cleaning. Also, you can get your pump covered by insurance (most of the time) so jump on this!!

18. Car Diaper Caddy. Why are you going to haul around a thirty pound diaper bag every where you go? Get a caddy, and fill it with essentials and emergency things for baby. Diapers, cream, blankie, toy, wipes, liners, extra clothes, socks, nose cleaner, etc. Leave this stuff in the car folks! Consolidate and bring only a few things in your actual bag that you're taking out for the day. If you're at the grocery store, mall, or a park, your car is just there so you can always go to it when needed. It is not necessary to have to have a humongous diaper bag with you at all times. A diaper caddy organizer is very inexpensive and can hold all the supplies you need and save you hassle lugging these items around just to go grab an ice cream cone. 

19. Poop and Blood. You're most likely going to poop while giving birth. The docs are so used to this so get it through your mental notes now and move on. Then you'll bleed for a while. Like, it could be a long while. Just stock up on lots of pads and ruinable undies that you can throw away after all this. Nothing is cute down there after pregnancy. Just take it day by day and yea, do those Kegal exercises as well. 

20. Folds and sweat.  Pregnancy means running hot.  You may be sweating in your butt cheeks and under your boobs. Curb the booty sweat by taking out that Desitin diaper cream and using it as needed. Waking up with sweaty folds is not fun so try this hack if necessary. It's worth it to stay dry in certain places. Place a fan in your direction of sleep to add to the drying effect. 

21. Birth Positions. There's so many options for birth these days. However, the common goal is to deliver safely, a healthy and happy baby in the most stress free experience for both mom and babe. Complications can occur, and they do, so be prepared with a plan to ensure your baby is safe throughout delivery. Birth positions are not a new, but new topic. Amiright?! So check your hospital (maternity tour if you can) and see what they have in terms of bed and birth plans. Does the labor bed reposition and go vertical, have a birth bar, do the legs go down, are there birth balls, and can you squat if needed? Do they support "rock and roll" positioning for childbirth? Do they support delayed cord clamping, skin to skin, and exclusive breastfeeding? If you are seeking alternative ways to position yourself during childbirth, you can still deliver in a highly monitored setting, and still have the ability to choose many comfortable and natural ways to give birth to your child. 

Overall, take what you will from this list and know that YOU are unique. You will have your very own special experience. Not everyone gets sick, has the same issues, and not everyone feels the same way about things. Just roll with it and go with the flow.

Now, good luck mamas!! Keep going, you're doing great! 

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You're still glowing from the news that you're pregnant, marveling at the exciting and life-changing miracle that's occurring in your body. Naturally, you've got lots of questions, and one of them is likely to be "When will I feel that first kick from my baby?"

Signs of Life

So have you, or did you, find yourself trying to notice any movement in the beginning of your pregnancy?  Most mamas do, and that first little flutter is like a crazy feeling and gives a sense of relief, peace, and excitement. 

That first faint "kick" from baby may feel a little like a ripple or a butterfly in your burgeoning belly, and you could feel it as early as 13 weeks after the start of your last menstrual period. If this is your first baby, however, it probably won't be until around 18-20 weeks from the start of your last period. So stay patient mama!  The movements will come and baby will move when he/she feels like moving.  Don't compare yourself to others, but five months is a good average to when you should notice moving.

The medical term for baby's first movement in the womb is called "quickening". It's an exciting moment, and as the movement grows stronger, you'll probably want to grab your husband's hand and place it on your abdomen so that he can share in the experience, too!

As your pregnancy progresses, your baby's kicks will be more obvious, and your tummy will "move" with the baby. There will be some good karate style chops in there! You may even be able to discern the shape of your baby's little heel or adorable baby booty as he kicks and moves around! Why is baby moving? Well, he's stretching and flexing, rolling and maybe even moving in response to sound, food you're eating, or in "protest" of a position you're in that he finds uncomfortable.  Don't worry, baby is super cushioned in there in his amniotic sac, so something like bending over won't cause any harm to him. 

Bear in mind that the dates listed above are approximate. Everyone is different, and has different body types, but you'll most likely feel unmistakable movement by the time you're five months pregnant. You're most likely to notice the baby move when you're quiet yourself -- resting in bed or watching TV, for example. If you're moving around all day you may miss noticing movements.  You might also notice more movement after you've had a snack since the increased blood sugar in your system can give her a little "rush" of energy! 

Everyone will love to touch your belly, hoping to feel your baby moving!

Movement in the Third Trimester

By the beginning of the third trimester of your pregnancy, you'll probably be seeing a pattern of movement from your baby. You'll get to know when he's awake and active and when he's napping. He'll probably be pretty active in general -- that is until he's so big that he starts to have less room in which to move around.

It's a good idea to chart your baby's movements, aka kick count, during the third trimester so that you can note how many times a day he tends to move, and when his movement begins to slow down a bit. This is especially important since you want to make sure he's still moving, even if it's a little less frequently, right through until his birthday arrives.  You will want to notice ten movements within an hour, and you can do this anytime and anywhere.  If you're home, try drinking a cold glass of water and laying on your left side, and just notice about ten movements in the next hour. 

Trust your gut and call the doc if you don't notice any movements and you feel something is off.  From experience, my baby was very quiet during the morning but woke up once I started going about my day.  They have their "sleep" schedules too, but even so, baby still will move around while sleeping. 

Mom to be sitting and feeling baby roll around in her belly. She's wearing the Fuchsia Orchid Ribbed Snap Maternity Nursing Tank Top.

Baby's First "Picture"

Your first ultrasound (aka "sonogram") session will allow you to (sort of) see a really fuzzy "picture" of your baby inside your womb, as well as observe and hear his little heart beating. This initial ultrasound is typically performed around 6-8 weeks into your pregnancy.

Somewhere around 13 weeks in, your second ultrasound will give you a clearer view of your baby, who's been growing and developing since that first ultrasound. And while the initial test is via a "wand" inserted into your vagina, this second test will involve a flat wand that's moved over your belly, with the help of a little lubricant.

If you're lucky enough to have access to a facility with a high-definition sonogram machine, you may even be able to get pictures with 3-D photographic-quality details!

Your second-trimester anatomy ultrasound (performed at around 20 weeks) will show you your baby in much greater detail, and you should feel free to ask the technician to point out organs and details if you're not sure exactly what you're looking at. This is the time when fingers and toes can be counted by an experienced technician who can also tell -- with 95% accuracy -- what sex your little one is, so it's typically an awe-inspiring experience!

Making Plans

By now, you've probably begun to collect all of the things you'll need to take care of your new baby ... a crib, a car seat, a changing table, basics like diapers and "onesies", etc. You'll also know by now whether or not you'd like to breastfeed, and if you're going to nurse, you've probably been doing some reading up on the subject and maybe attending some Lamaze classes to prepare. If you haven't also taken your nursing wardrobe into consideration, be sure to stock up on game changing nursing fashions. These mom musts include tank tops, tee shirts, hoodies, and sweaters! All are designed to make nursing your baby a breeze and eliminate having to bunch up your top and keep it off of your baby's nose as he nurses, making both of you comfy and cozy as you bond through the breastfeeding experience! Now you'll actually be able to see your baby move while she's in your arms! Just another of the joys of being a brand-new Mommy!

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Imagine your butt hole just taking on a whole alien personality of it's own.  That's right. Maybe it starts to feel like it's turning inside out. Not to mention a little itching. Maybe your starfish has started to bleed a bit when you go number two. So. Not. Cute. 

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Take this as a public service announcement because you, yes you mommy to be, can possibly avoid this, or at least help it out if you've already started to become a "victim" of hemorrhoids. 

Hemorrhoids are varicose veins in the rectum that flair up under pressure. When women begin getting hemorrhoids during pregnancy, they may be confused as to why they are occurring, what they could've done to avoid them, and how they can treat them. Thankfully, there are answers to all of these questions.

Why Do Pregnant Women Get Hemorrhoids?

Pregnant women are more prone to getting hemorrhoids for a few different reasons. The main reason is constipation, but there are several reasons why you may become constipated.

One of the reasons for constipation and hemorrhoids during pregnancy may be the increased levels of the hormone progesterone in your body. This hormone helps to soften your cartilage, joints, and ligaments to prepare for the birth of your baby.

However, another side effect of increased progesterone levels is the relaxing of your vein walls. This can make it harder for you to push out your stools, because everything is so "relaxed" down there, causing you to strain more and create hemorrhoids.

Another cause of constipation, and therefore hemorrhoids, is the increased pressure on the lower half of your body, and specifically your rectum, from your enlarged uterus and fetus. This pressure can increase your risk of getting hemorrhoids when trying to have a bowel movement because the veins swell. 

Iron supplements that are recommended by some doctors during pregnancy can also add to problems with constipation and hemorrhoids.

Iron is notorious, like crazy infamous for causing this so not cute side effect of being preggo! This is because your body may not be used to the higher doses of iron, causing the excess iron to go from your small intestine to your large intense, where it mixes with bad bacteria to cause bloating, gas, and constipation. It creates hard, dry, dark, and tarry stools. 

So, How Can I Avoid Hemorrhoids?

If you haven't already received the gift of hemorrhoids during pregnancy, but are worried about getting them, thankfully there are things that you can do to avoid them altogether.

One thing that you can do to avoid hemorrhoids is to keep your stools as soft as possible. This can be done by eating a diet that is high in fiber.

Drinking a lot of fluids throughout each day can also help to keep your stool soft and loose. At least two liters of water a day. If need be, you may even want to talk with your doctor about using a stool softener to help soften your stool as well.

Metamucil, or some fiber supplement, is great for keeping the flow flowing. Ask your physician what they recommend for you.

Another way to avoid hemorrhoids is to gain the appropriate amount of weight during pregnancy and avoid excess weight gain.

The more weight you gain during pregnancy, the more pressure you are putting on your rectum. A great way to keep your weight gain on track, and also stop stool from becoming hardened, is to exercise regularly throughout the course of your pregnancy.

Walking greatly helps move everything downward and keeps you regular.  You should be walking and exercising into your third trimester anyways, unless instructed otherwise. 

Lastly, get a foot stool for the potty.  This is not new to lots of people, but seems like in the Finland it's becoming more known. 

A popular brand is Squatty Potty, but you can get any generic kind from Amazon, or even Target.  Having a foot stool when going to the bathroom helps move things along faster and easier because it positions you in a natural squat position and eliminates straining and decreases pressure on the veins. 

in summary...

• drink lots of water
• avoid constipation by increasing fiber
• eat fiber full foods like dried apricots, prunes, vegetables, brussels sprouts, lentils, etc. 
• walk and exercise as advised by your doctor
• get a foot stool for the potty

How Do I Treat Hemorrhoids Once I Have Them?

If you already have hemorrhoids and would like to reduce the pain and irritation that they are causing you, then there are a few different things that you can try. One main thing that you need to do is start all the above asap. 

Water, walking, and fiber up!  

Now if the water and fiber isn't helping and you feel like you're at the point of no return, try a few things such as an ointment and keep the area clean and soothed.

One way to do this is after your go to the bathroom, take a shower, and let very warm water soothe your soreness. Wash with a mild no-fragrance soap and let that warm water calm things down for you.

After drying, apply witch hazel astringent.  It is mild, alcohol free, and soothes. 

Tucks brand makes witch hazel pads and they are amazing. 

Apply ointment after, such as Preparation H, or something similar. 

Use only cotton undies.

Ointment, witch hazel, and a butt washer are a mom's best friend to keep hemorrhoids at bay.  Put some witch hazel and warm water in the peri bottle.  This one by Fridababy is awesome. All ordered from Amazon so you don't even need to walk in a store.

If you are experiencing prolonged irritation more than seven days you can switch from the ointment to coconut oil, or go back and forth from the ointment to coconut oil.

If you are really having issues, try a Sitz bath where you can soak your bum. 

You may also want to talk to your doctor if it has really become worse or you have thrombosed (clotted) hemorrhoids. A little bright red blood is common with hemorrhoids, but you still should talk to your doctor if it is more, extended for a long time, and especially if you are older than 40. 

If none of these methods seem to help, then talk with your OBGYN about pregnancy safe options. 

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7 Things Mom to Be should NOT feel Pressured into Doing.

Here are some of the things pregnant moms really don't want to hear.

1. Sit down! You have to rest! The idea that pregnancy means a woman needs to put her feet up and rest her way through gestation is antiquated. Hello...we're preggo, not injured.  It's good to move! Unless there's a health problem, doctors advise staying active throughout pregnancy. It's positive for the health of the baby and the mom. It also helps reduce stress, improves sleep, and strengthens women for the work of labor. Even in the third trimester, exercise is encouraged.

2. You're so big! You're so tiny! For some reason, basic tenants of common courtesy get forgotten when speaking to a pregnant woman. Don't comment on someone else's body. Period. It can make people feel anxious and embarrassed. It makes mom to be ask questions. Am I too big, what could be wrong?  Am I too small, what could be wrong? Pregnancy affects women very differently so there is no rule to size.  Besides, it's really none of your business.

3. Are you going to go into labor right NOW? Labor almost never starts dramatically like they show on TV. It's unlikely you are going to gush out a waterfall and then the baby will start crowning in minutes.  Like really? It's a methodical process, so don't treat women like being in the third trimester makes them ticking time bombs.

4. Let me tell you this birth horror story. Lots of women love to tell their birth stories. This can be an excellent way for women to share their experience and give encouragement and information. For some people, though, it's an opportunity to drag out the very worst scenario they've ever heard of. Be aware if you're soon to be mom is going to want to hear all about it. Since there's no way to predict how labor is going to progress, it's not really helpful to talk about the worst possibilities. Pregnant moms should focus on their own unique birth plan, and soak up the beautiful stories their friends have to share.

5. Second child? This one will give you trouble! For some reason, lots of people believe that a sweet-tempered first child is always followed by a challenging second child. Babies really haven't heard that theory, though. Each child is a unique individual, and the only way to know what their temperament is going to be is to meet them. 

6. Breastfeeding is so hard! A mom who struggled with breastfeeding might have unresolved feelings about it, and these may come out as negative statements. Sometimes breastfeeding is challenging, with a steep learning curve. People have been doing it for millennia, though, so it probably isn't impossible. Moms who are planning to breastfeed might want to seek out other breastfeeding moms and get their input. Good online sources have lots of information on breastfeeding, as well as practical tips on what to wear for breastfeeding, and how to nurse in public. Most people will say that once breastfeeding is established, it's actually a relaxed, pain free, and simple act with myriad benefits. 

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7. Pumping at work is too difficult. Lots of women decide that it's worth it to pump breastmilk at work. There's more legal protection than ever for women who want to keep breastfeeding. With information and a plan in place, it's absolutely, no doubt about it, doable.  Don't get discouraged hearing it from others.  

8. Well, breastfeeding will ruin your breasts. Remember #2 above? What other occasion invites people to comment on others' breasts? Regardless, doctors are pretty sure that it's not breastfeeding that causes some women's breasts to sag, but pregnancy itself. The way a woman's body responds to weaning is actually fascinating. 

and just to add...you might have heard, "Say goodbye to your Social Life!"  Hmmm, okay Debbie Downers...BYE!  Who's to say you won't be able to still do the things you love?  Sure, getting outside with your newborn will bring up challenges and being able to spontaneously hang out with your girls may come far and few between.  However, many parents find ways to travel, eat out at nice restaurants, and still get together with pals when time allows.  It's all about balance, and if you intend on keeping in touch with those people in your life, you probably will make it happen.  Truth is, those that understand parenthood is life changing will still stick around and be happy to take advantage of those moments when you call to say, "Hey, come over and let's have some wine!".  Wine not?

If you're a pregnant mom who is tired of hearing statements like these, take heart. People usually don't mean any harm; they just don't always realize how their words come across. Try not to let it bother you, and keep your eyes on the future. Your experience is unique and your very own.  Stereotypes, assumptions, and plans can go out the door when it comes to the phases of motherhood. It will be your very own journey.

Keep going mama!  You're doing great!

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Preparing for Labor

In the weeks before labor starts, your body will begin getting ready. This is one task you don't have to remember; your body is taking care of it. These are some of the shifts in your body that will happen in a few weeks to a few days before labor begins.

• The baby "drops." When the baby's head settles down into the pelvis, you'll feel a little more room under your ribs. You may even be able to breathe a little easier. The tradeoff is that you now have a baby head in your pelvis, which can feel a little unsteady and heavy. It's possible that this pressure against your cervix helps stimulate labor.
• Braxton Hicks contractions increase. You've been having these "practice contractions" throughout the whole pregnancy, but you are sure to feel them now. They will feel stronger and longer. Although they'll be attention-getting, they usually aren't painful. Think of it as the muscles of labor tuning up before the big performance.
• Changes in your cervix. As the due date approaches, your doctor or midwife may perform an internal exam to see if your cervix is ripening. That's right, ripening.  This means it may be softening, thinning, or even dilating. This is usually a good sign that labor is near, although some women walk around a few centimeters dilated for weeks before birth.
• Pass the mucus plug. As the cervix changes, it will lose the mucus that sealed its opening. This will either come out as a lump of thick mucus or as an increase in vaginal discharge. It may be tinged with blood.
• Bloody show. As your cervix softens and stretches, small capillaries will rupture. This is especially true after an internal exam or sex. If you pass a little blood, don't worry. It can be brown, pink, or bright red. As long as it's not more than a tablespoon, it's nothing to worry about. 
• Diarrhea. Charming, right? This is a good sign, though. It means you're getting close. The prostaglandins that help the uterus contract and the cervix to soften can also stimulate the bowels. 

Signs That Labor Is Beginning

After weeks of these unusual symptoms, you may be wondering if the real thing will ever begin. When does active labor start?

Many women experience a surge of energy just before labor begins. You may be suddenly interested in organizing or cleaning. Try not to get involved in any big projects, though, because that energy is a gift to carry you through labor. Here's what to look for.

• Contractions. These are going to be significantly stronger, longer, and more intense than the Braxton Hicks contractions you've been having. You'll start to feel pain, not just pressure. You will probably feel it in your lower back because a lot of babies begin labor with their faces up, so the back of the head is pressed against mom's spine. If the contractions are regular and don't slow down or stop when you lie down, eat something, and drink some water, congratulations! You seem to be in labor. Let your doctor or midwife know right away, but you probably won't need to go to the hospital just yet. 
• Water breaks. The amniotic sac may rupture. This is a tricky one, because it might start to leak before contractions begin. Then again, it may never rupture on its own, and your doctor or midwife will need to help it along. But if you feel a trickle or a gush of liquid, it is probably amniotic fluid. Remember, it could just be a trickle.  Be sure to check and see what color it is and if it has an odor. A dark or greenish color or bad odor is a sign that the baby is in distress (meconium could be present and it is very dangerous for baby to inhale it). If you're not sure if what you're seeing is amniotic fluid or just vaginal discharge, go see your doctor or midwife. They can easily test the fluid to be sure. You want to speak to them even if you're not having contractions, because once your water breaks they will want you to deliver before too long, to reduce the risk of infection to the baby and yourself. It's  important if your water breaks to check in with your doctor right away. 
• Contractions get serious. When the contractions are regular, last longer, and are about 10 minutes apart, you're probably in active labor. At this point, women start to talk less and focus on what's happening in their body more. The pain will increase. If you can't talk through a contraction, that usually means you're in active labor. Time to head to where you're giving birth. 

As you navigate these last few weeks and days of your pregnancy, your body isn't the only thing preparing for birth. Your intuition is tuning up as well. Pay attention to how you're feeling, and if you need to talk to your doctor or midwife about something, don't be shy. Even if it's a false alarm, you're doing what you're supposed to by paying attention. This is your body and your baby. While there are patterns of labor, you are the only person who will give birth exactly like you. Trust your body and speak up if you're worried. Best wishes! What an adventure you're beginning!

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When you're pregnant, you can't help but worry about every little change in your body. It's only natural to be concerned that the baby growing inside of you is healthy and thriving. If you begin to experience any strange symptoms, you may wonder if it's time to call your doctor, or if you're just overreacting. One symptom you might experience is called Braxton Hicks contractions. Read on to learn more about them and when you need to check in with your doctor.

What are Braxton Hicks Contractions?

• When do they happen? Although they're most commonly felt in the third trimester, some pregnant women experience towards the end of the second trimester. They usually happen throughout pregnancy, but only become more noticeable as you get closer to your due date.
• What do they feel like? Some women describe them as feeling like menstrual cramps, or a tightening in their uterus. As if your tummy feels like a hard soccer ball.  Contractions are, by nature, a tightening and relaxing of the uterus, and will feel like that. They rarely last for more than a few minutes at a time and don't follow any rhythm like labor contractions do. They usually are more uncomfortable than painful, and always get less intense rather than becoming stronger or more frequent.  It's a normal part of the process. 
• What causes them? A few things can cause Braxton Hicks contractions, like mom or baby being particularly active.  When exercising you might feel them come about...no reason to be alarmed and also working out while pregnant is very healthy so keep it up!  A full bladder, dehydration, or someone touching mom's belly can also cause Braxton Hicks. They aren't caused by actual labor, and they don't mean that your baby is ready to come out just yet!

Should I be concerned?

Braxton Hicks contractions are rarely a cause for worry, so if you feel these contractions, don't let yourself get too stressed! Unless the contractions aren't letting up, or they're getting more intense, frequent, or painful, you don't need to contact your doctor. If you have Braxton Hicks for a full hour and they aren't loosening up then call the doc.

Of course, preterm labor is always a concern among women in their third trimester, so if you aren't definite that what you're experiencing are Braxton Hicks contractions, it also might be best to give your doctor a call.

What to do about Braxton Hicks contractions

Unlike true labor contractions, Braxton Hicks contractions will usually go away with a change of activity. Try simply taking a short walk, and trying your best to relax. A warm bath or a short rest can also help, especially if you've been particularly active.  Breathe, relax, drink water, and slow down a minute. 

Though it may be hard to rest and relax at such an exciting time, it's the best way for both you and your baby to prepare for the big day! In addition, make sure you're staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water or mom safe herbal tea. True labor contractions aren't relieved by any of these methods, so if you've tried them all out and nothing is bringing you relief, check in with your doctor.

As your pregnancy continues to progress, Braxton Hicks contractions can occur somewhat more regularly, but until you reach your last few weeks of pregnancy, they'll most likely be infrequent, irregular, and not too painful. In your last few weeks, your cervix begins to soften in preparation to give birth, so contractions around this time may start to happen more frequently and may also become more intense. 

Remember, if the contractions continue to get more regular, intense or painful, and they don't stop after a few minutes, it might be time to give your doctor a call. If you experience unusual discharge, spotting, odd lower back pain, vaginal pressure and pain also call your doctor.  They would rather know what is going on with you and evaluate it rather than have you not bring it up.  When it comes to your health and the health of your baby, it's always best to be safe! However, Braxton Hicks contractions are most often harmless, so if you find yourself experiencing them, try your hardest to relax and focus on steering clear of stress and worry. It's essential to implement self care in the third trimester. This is an important and exciting time for you, so focus on taking the best possible care of yourself.

Keep going mama! You're doing great!

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You've made it - The third trimester is here, and while you're more uncomfortable and exhausted, you can also see the end in sight (even though you can't see your toes haha)

As you reach the end of your pregnancy, there probably isn't much on your mind beyond meeting your little one for the first time. 

Evens so, you might wake up one morning with an unrelenting desire to do something. Clean, organize, bake. No matter what it is, your body wants to get ready. 

This is called nesting, and it's an instinct most women experience in the weeks leading up to delivery (if you never experience it, don't worry. Plenty of women don't).

This instinct can be overwhelming though. What are you even supposed to do these last few weeks?

Use our third trimester checklist to put that nesting urge to good use in these last few weeks. 

Diaper Prep

Chances are, you've already decided how you're going to diaper your baby. If you haven't, now is the time to make that choice. Cloth, Disposable, or a mix of the two.  Maybe you want to skip diapers and do (EC) elimination communication. 

There are tons of choices, and there are lots of ways to fit your budget and lifestyle. 

No matter what you choose, though, now is the time to make sure everything is in order. 

If you are using disposables, make sure you have packs of newborn and size 1 diapers ready. Some babies fit fine in newborns for a few weeks, while others skip them and go straight to size 1. 

Disposable pro-tip: Resist the urge to open any packs of diapers before you actually bring your baby home. 

The hospital will give you diapers to bring home with you, and you can return unused packs for store credit if it turns out your baby doesn't need the smallest sizes. 

If you're using cloth, now is the time to finish your stash and prep your diapers. Remember that natural fiber diapers sometimes need to be washed 8-10 times before they are ready to go on a baby bum, so give yourself some time.  

Make sure you have your wet bags and washing routine figured out and prepped now so that all that fluff is ready for your baby's bum when you bring them home. 

Hospital Bag

Nothing seems to give new mamas more stress than the hospital bag. 

Truth be told, it isn't as big a consideration as many first-time moms think, and there is no need to bring your entire nursery with you. 

A good option for your hospital bag is whatever diaper bag you will be using. 

A good third trimester checklist for your hospital bag:

Some Comfy Nursing Wear

You'll be spending a lot of time in bed while you're at the hospital, and while wearing the hospital issued gown for the duration is an option, it isn't the most comfortable.

Wearing your own clothing will help you feel more like yourself, especially when people start coming to visit.  Find some nursing tanks and tees that you will want one or two of to bring with you.  Styles that not only work for feeding, but postpartum everyday wear, and even well beyond are great investments especially if you plan to nurse a lot or do pumping when you return to work.

A few onesies

New babies pretty much all look like potatoes, and while hospitals have great security systems, it's nice to have something that differentiates your baby from all the others on the maternity floor. 

Pack a few onesies or sleepers to dress your baby in while you stay at the hospital. 

Going home outfits for you and baby

This is a given. Keep in mind that you will probably still need some of the same clothes you were wearing, so pack an outfit you might have worn in early second tri. Stock up on functional, transitionary tops that work for nursing and while you are in the postpartum stages such as the robertwilsonassociates low neck swing tank or Relaxed Daily Nursing Hoodie. 

Your own toiletries and pillow

You'll want to take a shower, so bring your own products. 

Also, the hospital provides pillows, but they aren't exactly the picture of comfort, so having your own might help you stay comfy. 

There are more things like paperwork, camera, money, disposable pads/undies, etc. etc. that you will need so Read more on how to Pack your Hospital Bag like a Pro.

Choose a pediatrician

Most hospitals don't like you to leave the hospital without a pediatrician ready. 

Take the time to start researching and choosing a pediatrician in these last few weeks. 

Make sure their philosophy on child health matches yours and that you agree on things like vaccinations, medication, behavior, and discipline. 

Look into childcare options

While you're checking out pediatricians, start looking into who your support system will be, especially if you will be returning to work. 

Not everyone has help or family nearby, but having an idea of a few occasional options may save you some hassle in the long run.  You will be surprised how many people would love to help out, even if it means hanging out at your home while you take a few hours to take a nice bath and do something good for yourself.

If you are thinking about childcare, know that many quality childcare centers are on a wait, so make sure you get in early. 

Design your Nursing Haven

Yes, if you plan to breastfeed or pump you will find much success designing a space in your home with a few essentials. Water bottle handy (you must stay hydrated while breastfeeding), a comfy rocking chair, a blanket and nursing pillow, a few burp clothes, and a book or music nearby will really elevate your nursing experience.  

Add more needs as you think of them that will create this area as a peaceful and relaxing designated spot for feeding.  Dad can even use this area for cuddles, bottle feedings, and skin to skin time with his child.  

When mommy is happy then baby is happy too, and that will make for a successful bonding relationship for you and your new baby. 

Take a class

If you haven't taken a childbirth class, now is the time. 

You can also use this time to learn more about breastfeeding or babywearing. Check into what your local offerings are. 

These classes can also be an awesome time to meet other moms in your area. Start building your mom tribe now. 

In Los Angeles, The Pump Station & Nurtury offers tons of lactation expertise and classes.

Pre-register at the Hospital

The last thing you want to do while you're in labor is sign forms and fill out paperwork. 

See if your hospital offers a pre-registration option. This may come with a third trimester checklist for your health from your providers, and often this will come with a hospital tour as well so you can see the maternity facilities. 

If you have a birth plan, you will also want this ready and discussed with your doctor as necessary.

Laundry Time

Wash baby's clothing before he or she arrives.  We recommend more garments with less frills, glitters, and dyes as baby's skin is extra sensitive to rough textures or chemicals.  Just like the cloth diapers, you may want to wash your soon be bundle of joy's clothing in advance and more than once as needed.

While you are doing laundry, pump up the jams on your sound system and do a good sweep of the house by throwing away and donating unused items and clutter that you haven't used in years. Have the carpet cleaned, or do a through dusting to rid allergens and cobwebs that may have been missed.  Coming home to a clean home will be relaxing and starts your baby off in a calm, clutter free environment.

Do some meal prep

Some moms have the luxury of a village that will bring them home-cooked meals in the weeks after their baby is born. 

If you don't, or if meals from other people's kitchens just aren't your thing, take a weekend to put together some freezer meals. 

Soups, casseroles, and pasta sauce all freeze great and will keep your family fed while you are recovering and bonding with your new baby. 

If you have grocery delivery such as Amazon Prime Now, Instacart, or DoorDash in your area...take advantage of it.  It's a total lifesaver and timesaver, especially if you are city mom where there are lots of stairs, less parking, and traffic. Skip it all with a press of a button.

Make the Best Use of Our Third Trimester Checklist

As you go through the last few weeks, remember that the most important thing is to understand that there is no pressure here. 

Do the things on the third trimester checklist if you like, or leave them to later. Read the entire "like a boss" list of our Third Trimester Checklist here.

Use this last trimester to reconnect with yourself and your partner, and get ready for your life to change in the next few weeks. 

If you can make it happen, take some time for you and your partner. Get a massage, go on a babymoon, or just take a weekend to breathe and do nothing. Self care IS VERY essential to be balanced.  Read our tips of self care before baby arrives here.

Life is about to get crazy, and taking some time to relax will help put you in the right frame of mind to welcome a new life. 

Keep going mama! You are doing amazing!

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